My New Boss

May I know the gender of your direct superior? Do you prefer your boss to be a man or women? What is your personal thinking about this? Any comment?

Since I graduated from university, I joined this company. It’s about three years’ time.
All the while I was supervised by male boss. Yes, although my boss has been changed for few times, but still man.
Lately, I had another organization change and again I have a new department head. This time, she is a lady!
Well, I don’t pretty much choosy in this, whatever he/she is, the most important is he/she is a good leader and understanding.
That’s pretty enough!

I remembered once, when I had a supper session with a group of friends and one of the guy said “I don’t like female boss”, because they are emotional!
At the moment, I was like “Ish..you are such a macho man that look down to the female”. (I didn’t speak it out, just have this feeling) Anyway, I don’t think that all female = emotional!
There’s still someone with high EQ out there, although I admit that I am the emotional one! :p

Ok, back to the new boss.
So, after she became our department head (previously was leader of the group), she started to implement her revolution plan.
She started to instruct us to do this and that.
You will often hear something like “I think this is better”, “I think you should do that”, “Please do this and that”.
I did not say that giving instruction is a problem. Yes, you are the leader, assigning job is right but you have to take care of the feeling of your staff.
Is not that you are the boss and you can ask us do whatever you want. You are just ruining your team.
Anyway, this is very general, perhaps all boss did this.. even the male!

Tell you something happen to me.
As per my previous post, you should know that I am currently training someone who is very slow and with bad attitude.
Of course, training her isn’t my wish or my boss’s wish. But when I complained to you about this matter, you said “please call a meeting and we shall highlight this to the top management”.
With hope, I called a meeting with the wish that I able to terminate this training. In the meeting, when I voiced out to the top management, you sat there quietly!
You did not support me. Why? You are the one who asked me to call a meeting and yet you kept quiet in the meeting.
Fine, I thought you have your thinking! But finally I get to know that the reason you did this is because you are just promoted to department head and you don’t want this matter to have any affection to your position.
I felt so disappointed with that! Really disappointed!

The story is not end when you promised my trainee that you will give her another 1 month probation period. Ok. Another instruction for me, I accepted it. I thought that’s just a month. I started to re-train her again.
But you know what happened later? She wrote a very long email to the top management complained on my trainee about ability, attitude and proficiency in language. I cannot believe that when she told me about this. I asked her why you are doing that as you already promised her for the one month. She said she is having high blood pressure and this matter is quite a headache for her. She wants a stop for this!
My feeling is like OMG! You are doing a judgment because you had high blood pressure because of this problem? I felt so surprise of the reason she gave me. But, I think this is solely caused by emotional!

Besides, I also don’t think she knows how to assign job. Every week, we will have a meeting where we share our experience on what we had done and she will assign when your turn is.
So, there’s once (few weeks back) she said next is my turn. So, I said no, I am busy lately. So she said ok, then she will present.
Following week, she said “next week your turn”. I was like ok, no choice, I already rejected once right. So I said ok. (With unhappy voice)
Infact, I am much busier compared to the previous week. Reason are I have few jobs on hand which have deadlines to commit. Moreover, I need to go business trip for vendor discussion.
She knew all of it, because she has all my cc copy of email and we will go for business trip together.
Yet, she wants me to present. Is not that I want to escape from presentation, but the matter here is I am damn so busy and yet you want to add my work load.
Is not like I can present without presentation material, I need time to prepare the material too.
Things gone bad when I suffered food poisoning on Thursday, I was on MC for Thursday and Friday of the week. Next Monday I have to go business trip in outstation and Tuesday morning is the presentation.
On that moment, I felt so bad about this, I do not have time to do my job (there’s deadline to commit), and I still haven’t do the presentation slide.
I was too weak to go back to office on Saturday because I was still vomiting after food and finally I forced myself to back to office on Sunday for the presentation material.
During our flight to vendor, I told her I went back to office on Sunday for the presentation material and I haven’t finish prepare it. Her reaction was “oic”.

I was so pissed off at that moment, you knew that I had food poisoning and I had business trip, then next morning is the day. You should ask me whether I can make it or not, whether I need schedule delay. But no, your reaction is “oic”. What a pathetic!!
The next day, I tried so hard to complete it in time and presented it in time. But I was so frustrated, of course also because of the salary issue added on.
I admit that I shown face to her. But I am so pissed off when she asked me when I can submit draft to vendor. My anger shoot up and I said “not free”!
Come on, I was on MC for last Thursday and Friday, OT on Sunday just for the presentation slide and business trip on Monday and presentation on Tuesday morning. Just right after the meeting, you asked me about the draft, what the heck! You think I am superwoman who can present and on the same time doing other job somewhere else? Silly you!

Because of all these added on, I am so unhappy with her, especially I was not promoted and have such a low increment. I gave her a double black face. I did not talk to her and ignore her (she is sitting in front of me). Really no mood or desire to talk to her, not even want to have lunch together with her.
Well, what will you do if you are boss? You knew that your staff is not happy or disappointed for the promotion and increment issue, what will you do?
Should you take care of your staff’s feeling or you just ignore it or what will you probably do?
Guess what she did? Haha.. She shows me triple back face (I show her double). Why I said so? Because she also shown her face to us! She was not doing anything! At least you come to understand our feeling! I know, I know you cannot do anything for this problem, but at least you show you’re care of our feeling. But no!!! She has shown her face to us. She don’t speak to us (me and my neighbour – who are very unhappy about this promotion and increment). Really felt so disappointed for this. Well, no one care to break the ice.

Yesterday, after few days thinking, I finally decided to break the ice with her, thinking to find way to resolve this. But what she did was like, you do 1, I do 15 (你做初一，我做十五). In the meeting room, she told me she has something to discuss with me regarding my job. Issh, if you have anything you wanted to talk to me, why should you announce it in front of all. You can always talk to me; I am just sitting in front of you! How silly is it?

Anyway, all these only proven one thing, there’s no more reason for me to stay and work for her! There's no future her!