Monday, 23 July 2007

So called best friend?!

If i would talk about friendship...who are those in your mind?
Friend can be categorized into few category
-someone who might recognize your face, but don't remember your name
-someone who recognize and remember you, but have less topic with you
-someone who meet you often but not that close with you
-someone who is close with you but you hardly share your feeling to them
-someone who are your confidant who you can share everything...

Normally, from the way i categorized them, infact..the no of the person in that category also reduce. Today i am going to talk about confidant.. Who is in your mind now?

Frankly speaking, i don't think confidant needed to meet frequently or need to always stick to each other, but somehow when there's something happen, you willing to share and both of them care to appreciate the value of the friendship.

I have a friend who is a guy, i knew him from my first year in the university. He had never be course mate, but i knew him because he used to be close with my ex-housemate. Due to we are living in the same hometown, we get close very fast, but our friendship do not have any flame to burst up and so we are always very good friend. Whenever i need his help, a single call will do.

We had always so good friend and help and share among each other until he transferred his course to another branch of our university. We get lesser contact, but whenever there's semester break, we will surely meet each other in our hometown, and then we will share those happened in our life. Sweet and sours.. anything.

Lately, he has a girlfriend, someone who repeatedly saying that's the best girl he ever met. Of course as a friend of him, i congratulate and wishes his happiness to be everlasting. But the truth is, our friendship has been forgotten. Why do i say so? It has been a long time we do not contact each other, even though we meet in msn, he has no time to entertain me...As long as he open his mouth, he will started to say how sweet, great, generous about his gf..etc etc..

I met him once in a korean restaurant, together with his gf. He seems to change a lot..and he introduces his so called super Great gf.. haha.. Then started to show how lovely they are in front of us (my bf & i)..haha..So, i said ok..continue your dinner.. we shall meet for supper one day.

However, when i really sms him and ask him for a supper, he rejected and saying he is busy. Ok. i get it!. But, i do appreciate our friendship, i then send him and sms and ask him if he is fine, graduated, found his job and some other silly questions, and he replied me "Fine".
OK. That's enough. I will not send you any sms nor asking any question.
Is that really take time to answer me few simple question? What does that mean of "Fine". Of course i know you are fine..but the question "How are you" is jz an opening of a sms... My main point is "are you graduated"..etc.. Really pissed off!

4 comments:

bluestar said...

I understood your feeling. I have a best fren long time back (before I studied in MMU).
We are stay near to each other, whenever we are free, we will come out for a few hours chit-chat. The memories was wonderful.
But, this memories was been forgotten once she has bf.
Remember one time, I asked her for a met up in a weekend, but she replied me that: Please! I'm only meet up with my bf twice a week, you still want me come out meet you mer?!
What a good replied? Great! After that, I never want to ask her out anymore.
I always thought friendship will never be end even you have bf/gf. But, seem like I'm wrong!

Joyce said...

Sometime i felt like is ok that you wanted to spend more time with your loves.
But once in a while when friends date you, jz give some face..Don't act like your life have only one person

青焰 said...

what the dissapointment that he done these to you!! and i guess i knew who is this guy... sigh~ he was a lovely best friend indeed... perhaps there's some others incidents cause him act like this... but i know that you still care about him, i still can feel it from your words... however, friendship should be tied with the both sides....
cheers up babe, u still have some others best frens, like Bluestar (who always the first one to visit ur blog and drop u comments), and u got me too!! ^-^ even i'm quite far away, but u know how to get me when u need someone's ears to listen to u!

nut said...

omg....i'm so sorry to listen to that..
i think, and i suppose...that is not a good way for me to talk it over here..
guess i will just have to meet u up and talk to u bout this STUPID AND F**KING basterd...
sorry to hear that n i m sure that this guy, that did that to u,will never have the intention to leave his best fren behind..